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Thursday, March 15, 2007

It's Out

Jim and I are separated.
Ahhhhhh that feels good to write.
And now, it's okay to write about it.
I won't say much for now except that we've been separated for nearly 10 months, we still live together right now, we're still great friends, we're doing well, and we're trying to work this out in the best way possible for everyone, especially these three beautiful little boys of ours.
Even after Jim told his parents (hi parents in-law! I love you!), I wasn't sure if I'd write about it here because it IS personal. And a lot of it will be controversial. But good grief, if there's anyone out there going through something similar, I'd love to hear from you.
And maybe what I say can help someone.
And goshdarnit, I have to write
It's been a very rough time, but it's good. It's right. And...
I'm happy.


At 7:07 PM, Anonymous Jessica said...

Well, I don't know as I have much advice to offer, but I will be thinking of you and your family. When you said changes were afoot, that certainly wasn't what I expected. I'll be checking in every now and again.

At 7:20 PM, Blogger Tree said...

Hi Jessica,
No worries; no advice needed. I've had more than enough in the last 10 months, trust me.
Thanks for checking in.

At 7:43 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...


I wish you strength.

At 7:46 PM, Blogger Tree said...

Thanks, Mom^2.
I'll take all I can get.

At 7:53 PM, Blogger Tree said...

Incidentally, is that you, Shevon? You are missed!

At 9:23 PM, Blogger mamatulip said...

Ah, Tree. Wishing you and your family peace as you guys go through this, together...yet separate...

Thinking of you.

At 5:21 AM, Blogger Birchsprite said...

Delurking to send you a virtual hug.... I had a feeling that this was what was wrong.....take care Tree

At 7:33 AM, Blogger Tree said...

Thanks, mamatulip and birchsprite.

At 8:01 PM, Anonymous Jenn said...

Big big big hugs, absolutely ZERO advice! Like ice cream, with NO calories! That's me!

You know I love you. Rooting for happiness, whatever its incarnation.

At 10:32 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

love you babes, glad to see that things are clearing, blue sky and sun will shine through.


you deserve to:) kels

At 10:17 PM, Blogger The Mater said...

Whatever is meant to be, will be.

You are loved.

I hope Fate will be kind to all of you.

At 8:31 PM, Blogger Martha said...

Gosh, I don't know you at all, but I read your blog all the time and I just have to tell you that I can relate. It was a hellish time, the worst of my life so far. Our "separation" lasted almost a year, and then slowly, slowly, things got better. I'm a therapist and I always say that everyone could use a little therapy sometimes. It turns out that my husband and I fall into the same category as "everybody." Best of luck to you!

At 6:57 PM, Blogger Eve said...

Oh Tree. I've been wondering about you, and I'm glad you are well, and back to writing.

I hope that this huge life change, while difficult and emotional, will lead to only good things for you, Jim, and your sweetheart boys in the future.

Much love,


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