Ghost Story Tuesday

Sometimes, when a spirit is hanging around, it's because he or she needs to get a message to someone. Sometimes, they've made the transition to "the other side," or whatever you'd like to call it, but their loved ones needs them, so they visit. Very often, the person had a tragic death and has either not accepted their death yet, or they want to share what happened...they need to tell their story. I'm not sure why, but maybe in death, like in life, we need to have closure before we can move on.

My ghost needed some closure. When I want to connect to someone who has passed, I try and wait until I can be completely relaxed, and almost in a meditative state. With three kids, that's a tall order. Just before I go to sleep is often the best time, and it was this time, too.
I connected with him (he never told me his name), and quickly learned that, while he didn't die here, his blood, as he said, was spilled here. He was injured by some farm equipment. In fact, he lost part of both his right leg and arm. He went to recover some distance away, and died from complications (infection? Felt like fever) from the injuries later. He hung around here because he liked our family; I reminded him of his daughter.

All I had to do was tell him his daughter was waiting for him, and he moved on.

Often, when I first connect to an entity, the first piece of information I get is whether they are male or female. Then I get the cause of death. Because I feel things more often than hear words, I often ascertain the cause of death by experiencing what it felt like. I read for someone whose uncle died of a stroke, and my left arm and side of my face was numb the entire time. I have felt crippling chest pain with heart attack victims, and know what it feels like to have your lungs filled with fluid.

Where do you sense entities? Everybody does...a common place is the bathroom. I'd be willing to bet that the majority of tragic deaths occurring in the home take place in either the bathroom or the kitchen. The kitchen is a high-traffic area, though, and not as easy to pick up "spirit vibes" in. What else do you have to do in the bathroom, though? I mean, other than the obvious, non-complicated (usually) business? Have you looked in the bathroom mirror and felt the sensation that you're being watched? Looked in the bathtub and become frightened for no obvious reason?

My brother, also highly sensitive, came to me a few years ago and said he was bothered every time he was in the bathroom in his (and my sister's) apartment. It was particularly hard to have a shower; he just felt as though he was not alone. Jen, Jeff and I sat at the kitchen table that night and opened up. Immediately, we all saw an elderly woman. I don't remember who started speaking first, but we all began to describe her...her physical appearance, her emotional state, her family. Then I got an immense pain in my hip (still do not know why her hip suddenly hurt her) and felt as though I were falling. I saw her hit her head as she fell in the shower. I saw the face cloth fill the plug and the water start to rise. I saw the woman become conscious as the water began to cover her face, and not be able to get up. She knew she would drown. There was nobody to help her. She died alone. As soon as I saw this, she had peace. My sister and brother and I felt her move on.

Ok so that was some explanation and bits and pieces of stories. Next week, I'll tell you about the ghost I saw in my cousin's basement, and I'll answer questions; there are a couple from last week, and I'll answer any from this week as well.

I should tell you that I don't have all the answers...mostly, I have questions, too. Why am I able to see these things? What am I supposed to do with this gift? Am I supposed to use it at all? These are questions I've been asking since I realized that not everyone could see this stuff (I was 5 when I noticed that nobody knew what I meant when I talked about the colors around people, and it was much, much earlier than that that I realized that I was seeing things that the people around me couldn't...or didn't). I've made my own answers for some, but others elude me.

Sometimes (often!), I wish it would all just go away. There's not much room in my life for all of this. But on those occasions that I've helped someone, I've felt very lucky...bah, I don't know. I think I'll always be confused about all of this. Hey! If you have any advice, or opinions (be gentle!), I am all ears.