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Tuesday, April 25, 2006

Innocence Lost, Stress Gained

This morning, my beautiful seven year-old boy brought his clothes into the hallway and sat in front of my door as he began to get dressed. I could tell he wanted to talk to me, so I just waited while he got his thoughts in order. He had gotten his socks and underwear on when he said, "Mom, a boy in my class can't go on the computer for TWO WEEKS!"
Oh boy.
I already knew the answer, but I asked, "Why?" as I sat down on the bed.
Caleb was quiet for a minute, searching for the words. He searched my face, too. Looked into my eyes, seeking...wanting to know so much but not knowing how to ask.
"He did something on there! He went to a place...with pictures."
"Uh-oh!" I said.
Caleb nodded energetically. "Pictures of BOOBIES, Mom! LOTS of boobies!"
"Oh no." I said. Now I was trying to gather my thoughts.
"And LOTS of...BUMS!" said Caleb.
People, I did not expect to have to deal with this yet. I'm pretty sure I bungled it quite disastrously. I do recall saying, "That's bad" several times, with the ever so creative "That's very bad" peppered in there for good measure. I know we'll have to talk about it later. I asked him if he looked at it, and he nodded, his eyes solidly on mine again. "But I didn't do it!" he said.
He looked thoughtful.
"I didn't even know you could do that!" he exclaimed, his eyes shining with a gleam that can only be present when innocence is lost with the discovery of pornography.
Yes, we'll talk about it later. But for now, I'm just thankful he didn't ask why there are sites like that.
Because that's just a bit too much at 6am on a Tuesday morning...
Speaking of Tuesday, I'd best get the Ghost Story entry up!


At 10:00 AM, Anonymous Jo said...

Wow, how did another seven year old even know where to look?

I'm not thinking you bungled this at all. I'm not sure that you could have said anything better than "that's very bad" at 6am in the morning with no prior warning!

But I feel for you, knowing your little boy has seen things that those eyes should never have to look at.


At 10:00 AM, Blogger Jennboree said...

Oh man! I don't know if it'd more uncomfortable explaining to a boy or a girl! I bet he's not the only kid to run home about the porn on the computer. Wonder if there will be a riot from the parents!

At 11:42 AM, Blogger Diana said...

uh-oh. Riot at school today!

At 1:57 PM, Blogger The Mater said...

Disturbing stuff ... first for your innocent little guy (oh how we want to protect them) but also for the class in general. I'm not an expert on this, but shouldn't the school's software/browsers have strong security systems in place to prevent any of the kids from deliberately or accidentally coming upon this crap? It sounds like someone dropped the ball.

At 3:55 PM, Blogger Deb said...

Oh sweetie....I know all too well that moment when time stands still and the truth of the fact that your child has been changed forever runs through you. If only it could always be for the good.
My best suggestion is to let him talk about what he saw and reassure and validate. I use the phrase "some people believe/do/take" to explain things as objectively as possible and then share what I believe/do/expect. Then I ask them if what they believe/do/expect has changed?
Take good care of you and raise HELL at that school for this.

At 4:52 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Oh, my.


At 8:50 PM, Blogger MomToTracyNSheri said...

Been there, done this (sorta).
When TL was 8, I walked out of the shower one day to find her hosting a Billiards room on Yahoo games and kicking the ASS of some 22 year old guy in India.

We had to have the "appropriate use of the Internet" discussion right then and there.

At 1:09 AM, Blogger Brooke said...

Oh, boy . . . Having accidentally been to a couple of those sites before (Ever gotten stuck in an endless loop of pop-ups? Arrgh!) I can only imagine what your boy might have seen. But the way you tell the story about the "BOOBIES," that's very funny! And it sounds like you handled it well for a spontaneous conversation.

I agree with 'the mater' -- the school's Internet access shouldn't allow for those sites, anyway.

At 1:32 AM, Blogger Brooke said...

Hey, wait a minute. When your son said he didn't know people could do that, did he mean the poses and positions -- or did he mean showing those kinds of pictures online?!

Yeah, I know I'm optimistic. :)

At 1:34 AM, Blogger Brooke said...

Oh, and one more post. Last spring my coworker's son came to work with her and told us how a girl in his class was flashing everyone and asking who wanted to see the show.

The kids were seven.


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